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Kara and Becky continue their discussion of Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski, which they began in the previous episode. In this episode, we get a little more personal. We discuss what we hope our friends and loved ones will take away from this book if they read it.
Kara gave Becky Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski, for her birthday. This book is about sex, specifically female sexual response! Now Kara and Becky will talk about what each of them learned from the book, as well as how it relates to their own experiences and their understanding of sex and sexuality.
Also check out Kara’s review of Come As You Are.
Kara interviews Becky about being a blogger. Becky talks about the origins of her blog, what it’s like being a blogger in Montréal versus Thunder Bay, and what she has learned in the three years that she has been blogging.
Surprise, Kara is transgender! But that’s not what this episode is about. Or is it? A lot is happening to us in 2020, both personally and globally from, you know, this whole pandemic. Becky and Kara talk about how they’re holding up, and what they are enjoying and not enjoying about the strange plot twist that has started off this new decade.
Mentioned in this episode: Oprah and Deepak Chopra’s Hope in Uncertain Times meditation series.
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Recommendations: they’re the bread and butter of a lot of online content. But if you spend all your time recommending, do you ever actual check out those recommendations? This episode discusses the phenomenon of the modern recommendation in general before getting into some specific recommendations from your hosts!
Important Note: Since recording this episode, Ben has come out as transgender with new pronouns (she/her) and a new name (Kara). Please refer use this name and those pronouns when discussing this episode, and all past episodes, instead of her old name.
Books mentioned in the episode:
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The title says it all. Becky spills the tea about all her dates since she moved to Montréal. Ok, not really. She does, however, explain her approach to dating, and how that approach has changed since she moved. Poor, aromantic Ben does his best to sort out his confusion about when and how Becky likes a boy. Towards the end, we cover some questions asked by a listener friend!
Summertime can a lot of fun. It can also bring challenges, like broken elbows and finding new roommates. Ben and Becky talk about how we take setbacks and turn them into, if not good things, then all right things.
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Becky interviews Ben about his romantic and sexual orientations, aromanticism and asexuality. These identities mean he doesn’t experience romantic or sexual attraction—to anyone! Learn more about these identities in general, as well as Ben’s specific experience as an “aro” and “ace” person. They discuss how attraction works for them, arousal, porn, having partners, etc. Ben also debunks a few myths about asexuality and mentions how you can be an ally.
A few resources if you want to learn more about this topic:
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Two episodes ago, Becky blew Ben’s mind by introducing him to The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Now Becky’s back at it again, this time with The Real Housewives of New York City. Specifically, she made him watch three episodes from season 3 of the series, a self-contained trip to the US Virgin Islands where some of the housewives have a little too much to drink and let the emotions run almost as wild as their libidos.
Hear how this series stacks up against Beverly Hills in Ben’s opinion, and of course, which of the housewives Ben and Becky like the most—and which ones they think the other one most resembles. They also get real about bridal showers, both in the show and one they’ve attended together.
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Spring is in the air! Don’t you just feel more motivated? Ben and Becky muse over what motivates them, and how to make the most out of motivation.
Watch Becky’s time lapse video of creating her own bullet journal.
Becky also mentions the book on motivation she recently read: Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, by Daniel Pink.
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